How to Handle Social Judgement While Counting Macros
How do you stay committed to your health and fitness goals during the holidays without feeling like you have to defend your choices? In this episode, we dive into the art of navigating social gatherings with confidence, even when your healthy lifestyle comes under scrutiny. From practical tips on handling comments to staying aligned with mindful practices like counting macros, we’ve got you covered.
Instead of fixating on food, shift your focus to the people around the table. By fostering connections and engaging in meaningful conversations, you can enjoy the festivities while staying on track. After all, the real joy of the season is in the relationships we nurture, not just what's on your plate!
I also discuss:
(00:00) Navigating Social Gatherings With Confidence
(02:01) Dealing with Social Pressures Around Healthy Eating
(08:58) Embracing Authenticity in Social Settings
and more!
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[00:00:31] Hello and welcome back to another episode on the Embrace Your own podcast. Holidays are approaching and that means lots of social gatherings. And while these social gatherings should nourish our soul, they oftentimes cause a lot of stress in terms of navigating our health and fitness goals because so many people have thoughts and they oftentimes like to share their thoughts on what we're doing. And I mean, you know, navigating social situations while honoring your body with movement or nourishing your body with protein, carbs and fats. This alone can feel like a bit of a balancing act, like you want to stay on track with your goals. But at the same time, you don't want to feel like the odd person out or deal with judgment from others. Trust me, I totally get it. It can be tough, especially when people don't understand why you're sticking to your plan. But the good news is you absolutely can make it work without feeling awkward or tempted to throw, you know, all of your plan out the window. And so that's why in today's episode, I just want to dive into some tips that can help you handle these situations with confidence and ease. But before we dive in, I want to share this review from. It comes from Kelly. She gave a five star review and Z mindset freedom. I've been following Julie for a while now and I can absolutely confirm she is consistently wise, brings interesting topics to the table concerning health and fitness and speaks to life over her listeners. Her programs, both the movement with Julie and the Mac accounting made Simple Online Academy have led me to a lot of food and mindset. Freedom. Ten out of ten recommend taking the time to listen to her real. You might find the courage to embrace your own. I love this so much. Thank you so much, Kelly, for taking time out of your day to send in this review. All right, Let's dive into today's episode. We've all been there. You're at a party, you're out to dinner, and someone makes a comment like, why aren't you eating that? Or just have a cheat day or you're being too restrictive. It's unhealthy. Side note most people confuse nourishing your body with being restrictive, but that's a totally different topic for a different day. Being healthy itself isn't a bad thing, and I don't want you to have other people make you feel like it is. Yes, At a certain point, you know, restricting is something that you definitely need to take into consideration, but eating in a way that makes your body feel good and avoiding things that, you know, makes your body not feel so great. That is not something that you should let people make you feel bad about, right? Comments from other people can make you feel self-conscious. Remember, at the end of the day, this is your journey, not theirs. Sometimes people don't really understand that or they just don't understand in general that what they're saying could be a little hurtful or uncomfortable. But please, please, please, this season, do not let their opinions get to you. And so that's why in today's episode, I kind of just want to dive into some different ways that we can handle people's comments without it ruining our night. Number one, be confident in your choice. So when you are confident in what you're doing, like you are confident in, you know, sticking to your to your plan, your protein, carbs and fats, counting your macros, it's easier to brush off those comments. You're doing this for you and that's all that matters. If someone asks, you know why you're not eating something, just politely say, I've had enough already. Thanks for offering it. It looks super good. Or if it's, you know, a simple non-confrontational way to keep the conversation light. If they press for their just say, you know, if I overeat, it stops me from enjoying the night or, you know, I'll try some in a beer after my food digest if that's something that I really want, having some responses prepared that can actually make you feel a little bit more confident and lessen the anxiety around the situation once you're in it and someone actually has something to say. If you don't have anything prepared or you don't really think about these things in advance, oftentimes a one little comment can derail you and it can, you know, bring you down this dark spiral. And I don't want that for you. I want you to be able to enjoy the social situations this season with confidence and with ease. Number two, remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation. If someone's really pushing, you can say something like, you know, I have goals that I'm working towards and I'm feeling great sticking to them. Most people will often drop it after that, if not just change the subject. You're not responsible for making everyone else comfortable with your choices. Most often they are making you feel weird because they are trying to make themselves feel better. If everyone is indulging, then it's okay if they are too. But if you're not, then it makes them feel bad for their choices. Just remember that some people genuinely don't understand, you know, what counting macros is all about, so they might genuinely be curious or just overall confused about why you're being mindful of your food choices. If you feel like explaining it, go ahead. But remember, you don't have to. If you want to share, kind of here's a simple way to explain it, because I have noticed that, you know, when I am prioritizing my protein, carbs, in fact, oftentimes you can genuinely tell if a person is actually interested or if they're just making these like, sly comments because they don't feel confident in themselves. So kind of have discernment here, but if you are genuinely wanting to explain it to them, you can say, you know, I'm following a macro plan. This is going to really help me balance my. Protein, carbs and fats to help me reach my goals. On this plan, I can still eat all the foods that I love. It just really helps me with portion control, ensuring that I'm giving my body the macronutrients that it needs in order to see results. It's really working for me, so I'm sticking to it. And most people, once you say that, they'll respect that and they might even ask more questions, especially if they're actually interested in it. But overall, just keep it casual and don't feel like you need to justify anything. Come from kind of an educational standpoint and emphasize that it's making you feel good and no one can really argue about how you feel. Just remember that. Number three, don't let yourself feel weird about your choices. It's easy to feel like the odd one out and everyone around you is indulging and you're sticking to your plan. But honestly, most people are way more focused on their own plates than what you are eating. And the key here is, is to stay grounded in your goals and not worry too much about what other people think. Here's what helps. Remember why you're counting markers in the first place, whether that's to feel stronger, to hit a fitness goal or just overall take care of your body. Keeping that in mind can help you feel more at ease with your choices. Also, remember that what's weirder than making decisions that make you feel good in your body at social situations is actively making choices that don't make you feel good. Honestly, that in and of itself is so much weirder. And one other tip is if you are going to a party or a potluck, bring something that fits your macros. This is not only a great way to ensure that you'll have something that you can enjoy without completely going over your protein, carbs and fats. But who knows, this might open up a door or conversation for other people to be genuinely intrigued by, you know, a healthier option that still tastes delicious. Number four, don't let your food choices make you feel isolated. Stay engaged with the people around you. The more you focus on enjoying the company and having fun, the less you'll feel like food choices are a big deal. Because at the end of the day, it's genuinely about the people that you are with and engaging with them and having great conversations. If you are present and in the moment, then you aren't missing out on the point of this social gathering. And last but not least, number five don't feel guilty if things don't go perfectly. Here's the thing Life is going to happen, and sometimes you won't hit your macros perfectly in social situations. That is okay. One off plan, meal or drink is not going to undo all of your progress. The most important thing is to not let you know one meal or one drink turn into a day, turn into a weekend, turn into a week of going off plan. Enjoy the moment, but then get right back on track with the next meal tomorrow. Progress is genuinely about consistency over time, not perfection. Let me say that again. Progress is about consistency over time, not perfection. So there you have it. Those are my best tips on how to navigate social judgment while counting macros. Let me quickly recap what we talked about in today's episode. Number one, be confident in your choice. Number two, remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation. Number three, don't let yourself feel weird about your choices. Number four, don't let your free choices make you feel isolated. And last but not least, number five don't feel guilty if things don't go perfectly. If you are worried about the holiday season and really staying on track with social situations, I have an episode that you need to tune into. If you have never tuned into it, I think that you'll find this helpful. Maybe you haven't tuned into it in a while. If that's the case, it's episode 395 How to Enjoy the Holidays and Stick to Your Fitness Goals at the same Time. I will go ahead and link that in the show notes that you can easily go to and into that episode after this one. But I hope that you found this helpful. And again, just remember their reason for this season. You are going to these social parties to enjoy people, to enjoy other people's company and so don't make it all about food, don't make food the entire focus. Because when you do that, you're likely going to actually overthink the situation, overanalyze the situation and make it weird and make it harder than it needs to be the end of the day. Remember that these social parties are about being engaged with other people. And yes, you can absolutely stick to your plan if you have a plan and if you are armed with the tools like, you know, some of these things in today's episode that I talked about. But just remember, the reason for this season and overall, just remember that these oftentimes social gatherings are about the people. All right. That is all that I have for today's bonus episode. I love you so much. I mean it. And I'll talk to you in the next one. [00:09:46][554.5]
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